'It’s important to give men a real safe space to feel like they’re allowed to express their emotions. I can only cry every four months, and it’s like a huge physical release when it happens.' He might make it look easy, but guys are up a lot: 'We’re fighting against thousands of years of conditioning,' he says. “I will sit there in deep therapy and my eyes will tear up, and I’ll feel the lump in my throat, and it’s still really hard to go there even when you’re trying. “It is really, really hard for some men to cry,” Mendes says-including him.

Should crying be part of every man’s wellness routine? Yes, according to Mendes, but they might have to work at it. “Not publicly, which shows how uncomfortable men can be about expressing how they feel. “Every single man in my life said something to me about that line, but in private,” he says. It’s really important to have a group of men who will let you talk about that.”Īccording to Mendes, his 2020 hit “Wonder,” which featured the lyrics “when I cry into my hands/I'm conditioned to feel like it makes me less of a man” prompted seemingly every dude in his life to reach out to him in private that they felt the same way. “Feeling like you’re around people who will let you express how you feel. “Emotional wellness is really about vulnerability,” Mendes explains. The next frontier of men’s health seems to be all about mastering the mind, and for Shawn Mendes that starts with surrounding yourself with the right people. This kind of emotional openness has become a trending topic among male athletes and celebrities, a diffuse movement to challenge traditional notions of masculinity. And in trying to be the good guy, I ended up the bad guy. I was taking up more space explaining myself, instead of creating space for the person I was hurting, my girlfriend. “Like a lot of men, I feel a pressure to be a good guy, I want to be a good guy, and in moments where I’m betraying that, I realized I was still making it about myself by explaining myself. He says his most recent breakthrough involving having a good guy complex that led him to being a “bad guy” in his relationship.“The most recent big emotional breakthrough I had was realizing I had this good guy complex that a lot of men have,” Mendes says. I worked with a coach, Jay Shetty,” a former monk turned bestselling author and social-media superstar. And I was taking it out on other people, like in my relationships. 'And I was in this dark place, and I had to do something. I couldn’t sing anymore, and I always had a thing about quitting. We often experience those emotions as tension in our back, neck, and as pain in our bodies. It was all in my throat, which a lot of men experience. “I had so much anxiety that I actually couldn’t sing anymore.

“My personal wellness journey started a couple years ago when I was going through a really dark time,” he told GQ just before a sustainability-focused event held by SoulCycle and Flow alkaline water late last month. Whatever he’s doing, it really seems to be working-and in fact, he wants to tell you all about it. Considering the 23-year-old three-time Grammy nominee experienced a nearly career-ending struggle with anxiety in recent years, it's an impressive amount of emotional control. Second, in spite of that intensity, his presence is extremely still and calming. All rights reserved.If you ever have the chance to sit down with Shawn Mendes in a tiny closet in the back of SoulCycle in downtown Manhattan, you will notice two things. The Shawn Mendes Foundation Musicmaster is available for $749.99 on the Fender website.Ĭopyright © 2020, ABC Audio.

The foundation supports a variety of different youth-focused causes in the fields of healthcare, mental health and wellness, human rights, education, anti-bullying and sustainability. Sales from the guitar will go to benefit the Shawn Mendes Foundation, which Shawn launched last year to inspire his fans to advocate for issues important to them and work to bring about positive change in the world. “The body of the Shawn Mendes Musicmaster is a literal work of art - boasting a fan’s rendition of an intricate floral design,” the description on the Fender website reads, adding, “But it doesn’t just look like a dream - it plays like one.” The Shawn Mendes Foundation Musicmaster guitar, a collaboration between Shawn’s charity organization and guitar manufacturer Fender out today, is adorned with a vintage pressed flower design created by a fan.

Shawn Mendes may have just launched the prettiest electric guitar on the market.

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